The contents of this Blog are largely paraphrased from a blog by one of my favorite authors, Roy Williams. He's a smart dude. Read the original piece here.
Tiger Woods and his wife (for now), Elin Nordegren, met in 2001 and were married on 10/5/04. 6/19/2007, their first child was born. 2/8/2009, their second child was born.
Over the weekend, Tiger was allegedly busted by his wife for cheating.
The facts are still rolling in, but that voice-mail doesn't paint Tiger in the most forgiving light.
There's a theory that men are more likely to cheat on their wives not terribly long after the birth of their first child. After all, when a child comes into the picture, dad becomes pretty much invisible. His wife is in full momma mode. His only interaction with her is the handoff of the child so she can get some much needed rest. Friends and relatives walk right past him in a mad rush to be with the baby. His needs are decidedly secondary. What was once his own life is now committed to the service, care and feeding of a hungry mouth and a new mother who is exhausted and has little time for marital maintenance.
Some guys "get" that the above situation is part of the whole fatherhood package and handle things with grace. Some guys don't.
Some guys are at work, a restaurant, a wherever, one day when a lass gives him a look that he hasn't seen in a looooooooong time from his wife. She laughs at his stupid jokes, actually pays attention to his needs, and next thing you know...
I'm not saying that any of the above applies to Tiger Woods situation. It's just a theory. By the way, that video is what passes for news in China. And you thought our media was warped.
Also, I make no excuses for any man who cheats on his wife. It's the wrong thing to do. If your marriage isn't working, work on it. Yes, it will probably involve having long talks about uncomfortable subjects. You might even have to have those long talks with the assistance of a professional counselor, but I'd take that over seeing my kids every other weekend any day of the week.
A now, a word with my male reader:
So what's a guy to do when faced with the situation described above? Well, for starters, don't "Just Do It" (sorry, Nike).
The reason you're attracted to the woman who isn't your wife, is because she has something that you desire. (No, not that. Not those either. No, not that. Sheesh, just keep reading.) Aside from the obvious biological factors, ask yourself what you find attractive about the woman in question.
Her calm/enthusiastic/casual demeanor?
Figure out what that factor is fella, and realize that it is what you're missing in yourself. Take that attraction and turn it into an opportunity for self-improvement. Hit the gym, try to cultivate calm/enthusiasm/etc. in yourself, or whatever is it that you're lacking and finding in this other gal.
Chosing the other option usually ends up meaning choosing to see your kids every other weekend and signing most of your money away in the form of child support and alimony. Your mileage may vary, but I would stick with being a good, committed, happily married man.
Your TTPK Clue for last night is: "Your last name might end with it if you're from Krakow"
Your Blog Keyword is "Dontdoit"