My husband and I are thinking about starting a family later this year. I'm a major plan ahead kind of person so I've already been doing research on what baby items you need or don't need. I'm seeing a lot of lists suggesting you don't need some things that everyone seems to register for. And we're not the kind of people that feel comfortable asking others to buy us gifts.
So, my question to you is what items can you not live without or which ones can/did you?
Did you ask for a crib bedding set? I see most of them are over $100 easily and I read a blog saying you really don't need them, as no one cares how matchy the nursery is. I know you mentioned earlier that Mia isn't even using a blanket yet, so is it more sensible to ask for sheets and a crib bumber? Blankets seem to be that thing everyone gets you, whether you ask for them or not.
A highchair is also something I see on lists of things you don't need. I found these "portable" ones that just strap on a regular chair. The baby has to be old enough to sit up to use them, but is it possible to make it to that point without an actual highchair?
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Here are a list of things we use everyday:
- Bumbo seat (started using when she could hold her head up well)
- Big blanket to lay on the floor for tummy time
- Pack and play with bassinet (and changing station if you wish) This is especially helpful if you have a two story house because you'll have somewhere to change baby an lay her down for naps rather than running up and down stairs. You will need 2 sheets for the pack and play.
- Highchair with wheels that adjusts to lay back when she's little and sit up when she's big enough. This is great for when we are working in the kitchen she can sit in there with us and play and she's at our height to be able to watch us and we can wheel her around so she's never in our way.
- Activity mat that has toys dangling that she can lay under
- Lots and lots of burp rags and bibs (for when teething starts)
- A couple halo sleep sacks instead of blankets for bed time
- Rocking chair
- Bottle warmer
- Microwave sanitizer
- Bottle brush
- We spend a lot of weekends at my parents' house so a travel bassinet has been nice to take with us. Eddie Bauer makes one that folds up flat like a briefcase that packs really easily.
- A swing, I suggest the Fisher Price Snugglabunny or Little Lamb (we have both-one at my house and one at my mom's)
- Bouncy/vibrating chair that plays music. If it lights up that's even better!
- Baby bathtub with sling for little babies
- thermometer for the bathtub we have a rubber duckie one that says hot on the bottom in white when the water is too warm
- You'll want a basket or something to keep baby's bath stuff organized
- Hooded towels are awesome! You'll also need special baby wash clothes.
- Car seat cover for cold weather
- Diaper pail (2 if you have a 2 story house)
- Travel system-You'll want to spend a lot of money on this to keep your baby safe and make it easy to install. We got a Chicco because the safety check people raved about how good they are.
Things we've discovered we don't use:
- Wipe warmer -if you leave it on it dries out the wipes and if you unplug it you will forget to plug it in to warm it up before you use it so the wipes are cold anyway.
- Baby powder
- Shoes (at least not newborn shoes)
Things we wish we had:
- Changing table
Here's the story on the crib bedding set. We got one from a friend that included a sheet, bumpers, blanket, rug, wall decorations, valances, and skirt. We use the rug, wall decorations, skirt, valance, and sheet, but the blanket sits over the back of the rocker and the bumpers are in the closet. Blankets and bumpers are a suffocation hazard. We bought mesh bumpers so she wouldn't get her arms or legs stuck and we sure are glad now that she can roll over. We often find her with her face smashed up against the bumper. We have 2 other sheets that we rotate between washings with the one we got with the set, but we probably only needed 1 extra.
You will get lots of blankets. They're fine for cuddling with mommy and laying on the floor to play or even laying over the swing at naptime when you're right there.
We have a travel high chair like the one you're talking about too that we haven't used yet, but will start using it soon when we travel. You'll probably want a regular highchair when they start feeding themselves anyway because you'll need the tray, the travel one doesn't hold baby up high enough to sit belly up to the table.
For your first baby you'll probably have a baby shower. I suggest you register for the big stuff people will probably go in together for these items or give you gift cards to go toward the purchase of these items. You will get clothes by default so don't register for any or buy too many ahead of time.
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