5/10/11

I'm pretty good at keeping secrets as long as I don't have to lie to do it. I am not a good liar. This was the hardest secret I've ever had to keep, but when my husband and I found out we were having a baby we knew we had to keep it to ourselves for as long as possible because bad things can happen in the first trimester.

I know 2 people in the last year that suffered terrible losses because of miscarriage and they told a bunch of people as soon as they found out they were pregnant so they had to relive that pain every time they had to tell those people they lost their babies. We didn't want to put ourselves through that.

We told our families, but the agreement was that they were the only ones. If something horrible happened we'd talk to them about it anyway.

I called the doctor's office the day after the positive pregnancy test and asked if I needed to come in to confirm the pregnancy, but they told me that the home tests are as accurate as theirs so I didn't need to make the trip.

So we called our parents to confirm and my dad was at work when I called him. He was so excited when we told him the news he told everyone he works with so then we decided we had to tell our closest friends so they didn't find out from someone else. We made sure to tell all of them that we are trying to keep it hush hush.

Josh was very good at lying to people when people at work asked him how things were going because some of them knew we had been working with the fertility clinic. I on the other hand couldn't lie when asked. So I spilled the beans to the few people who asked me directly.

When I told my extended family I found out that my cousin in Maine is also pregnant and she is due the day before me! This is her 3rd baby so she felt comfortable telling people right away. It is so exciting to have a family member going through the same things at the same time.

I can't tell you how happy I was to make it through the first trimester so I could finally tell people! I'm so glad the secret is out.

Did you wait to tell people when you were pregnant? How long did you wait?