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Valentine's Day

by Nikki Montgomery

I'm not the most romantic person in the world. When Valentine's Day rolls around it's not a big deal to me. In years past my husband and I have purchased power tools as Valentine's Day gifts, but it's fitting because woodworking was a hobby that we did together and it's great quality time. Now that we have three kids 2 and under it's hard for us to do anything together, especially woodworking.

The other night Josh looked at me with a sorta sour look on his face and said, "We're not getting each other anything for Valentine's Day are we?" The way he said it and looked I instantly said, "No" with an obvious tone. However, I really wanted to say, "A card would be nice. Maybe we could go out to dinner?" 

The problem with going out is that we really don't like asking anyone to watch our kids. My sister, my mom and my oldest friend, watch them during the week so we would feel like we're asking too much to ask any of them to watch them any other time. I have a great friend who has watched Mia for us in the past, but she doesn't have kids and I would feel like dumping a 2 year old and two three month olds on her would be way too overwhelming. My other friends and family have 2 young kids of their own so 5 kids may be a bit too much. If we hire a babysitter, at whatever they charge these days, we won't be able to afford to go to dinner. 

Josh and I have been together for nearly 18 years. When we first started dating we were in high school so he got me stuffed animals, flowers, candy all the typical stuff. One year he got me a gold dipped rose that is now on display on a shelf in our house. The years went on and the gifts became less and less of a big deal. Now I don't care so much about gifts I would just like to spend a little time together. As you can imagine with 3 young girls it's hard for us to get sleep let alone a little alone time. 

Do you do anything special for Valentine's Day? Do you get gifts for each other?