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  • My new best friend

    Posted by Nikki Montgomery


    toiletI'd like you to meet my new best friend...the toilet! Pretty much any toilet anywhere. I can't go anywhere anymore without having to use one. It is crazy how much I've had to pee! 

    I thought I took a lot of bathroom breaks when I was drinking coffee in the morning. It's so much worse now and that's to be expected. It's really annoying! It's only gonna get worse as the baby gets bigger too and starts playing soccer with my bladder. 

    I have been drinking more which of course adds to the problem. I've certainly been more aware of it anyway. I'm drinking close to 64 ounces of water a day, plus I'm drinking a small glass of 100% fruit/vegetable juice (th help satisfy my daily requirements of fruits and veggies) and I'm drinking at least one big glass of milk a day.

    Drinking lots of water is very important during pregnancy. The nurse told me it's very easy to get dehydrated and that's never good. 

    I'm told that pasturized milk during pregnancy is good. I'm a skim milk drinker usually, but I read that during pregnancy I should drink at least 1% because the fat is good for me and the baby. I also read that drinking milk during pregnancy could reduce the risk of Multiple Sclerosis. I'm not sure if I'm willing to take that one to the bank though because the Dairy State has one of the highest rates of MS in the country.

    In WI milk is a very important source of Vitamin D, because the other source, the sun, hides on us in stormy weather and in winter we hide from it. Vitamin D in milk will help prevent neonatal rickets. Milk also contains riboflavin and inadequate consumption of riboflavin is linked to decreases in birth weight, length and head circumference. Though a smaller head sounds pretty good to expecting mothers it's not a good thing for the baby.

    I know that some women have been advised not to drink milk during pregnancy. I'm not sure why. I had heard something about avoiding milk allergies in the baby. Were you or anyone you know advised not to drink milk while pregnant? Why not?

  • Doctors appointments

    Posted by Nikki Montgomery


    dr officeI mentioned yesterday that I was told I didn't need to go to the doctor to confirm that I was in fact pregnant. The woman on the phone told me that teh home tests are just as accurate as their test so I just needed to schedule our 8 week appointment.

    It just so happens that we got our first appointment on Josh's birthday April 7th. We had heard that we might be able to hear the heartbeat at this appointment. My cousin who is pregnant along with me and a bunch of our friends all got to hear the heartbeat at their 8 week appointment. That made it even more disappointing to us that we were told it was too early. We spent the entire appointment doing a medical history.

    We knew we were at risk for having twins, but the nurse really put it in our heads at the first appointment. Because I'm over 30, twins run in my family and we were on fertility drugs. The nurse told us that at our 12 week appointment we would have an idea as to whether or not we were having twins and if the doctor suspected it we'd have our ultrasound moved up to our 16 week appointment instead of our 20 week appointment to confirm.

    Our 12 week appointment fell on our dating anniversary. We were guaranteed we'd at least try to hear the heartbeat. We were also informed that I would be getting a PAP/pelvic exam, that was fun for Josh to witness! Well before the exam the doctor wanted to try to find the heartbeat. He told us that they only hear the heartbeat 60% of the time and that it may take a while to find it. He had me so prepared not to hear it that when he barely touched the wand to my belly and we heard it I started laughing because I was so surprised. Then I was laughing at the sound of me laughing so I couldn't stop! It was so silly! I was sitting there having a giggle fit. The nurse said she wished she'd had a video camera. I think I ruined the whole thing for Josh. 

    The doctor did hear enough of the baby's heartbeat to determine that it was normal, but didn't attempt to find a second heartbeat. After measuring my uterus he didn't seem to think it was twins though so our ultrasound stays at 20 weeks.

    We scheduled our next appointment on our way out and it was supposed to be scheduled on my birthday, but the nurse practitioners were not available that day so we had to schedule it for the following Monday. I was pretty bummed out because we were on such a good run of appointments being on special days.

    What was your reaction to hearing the baby's heartbeat for the first time?

  • How are you feeling?

    Posted by Nikki Montgomery


    tylenol"How are you feeling?" is a very common question to ask a pregnant woman and I have been asked it a lot. In reality do you want to know about the puking, headaches, cramping and the horrible smells that seem to be all new in your home or office? Well, if you do I will honestly tell you how I feel. Most of the time I answer really good. 

    Compared to a lot of pregnant women I have been feeling quite well. I have not vomited even once. Which is a really good thing because there is nothing I hate more in this world! If you want to see me cry find me curled up on the bathroom floor with the stomach flu. Now that's not to say that I haven't felt like I was going to. Many mornings while in the shower I was forced to make a quick exit thinking this will be the morning, but after a few sips of water and a rest on the rug I got through it. There were many days that I felt nauseous all day and didn't feel like eating anything. In fact there were a couple days I passed on dinner to have a bowl of whole grain cereal. I seemed to feel most nauseous around dinner time and I'm not sure if it was the smell of cooking or if that's just when my morning sickness really kicked in. 

    Morning sickness is a very misleading name because it can really set in any time of day or all day and in some really unfortunate cases it lasts beyond the first trimester.

    I remember my sister-in-law had headaches all the time when she was pregnant with my nephew Cole. I have had a few headaches, but they are a totally different kind of headache than I'm used to. I am a migraine sufferer, anyone else who gets these knows the pain you endure when you have a "headache." The nurse told me on my first visit that my migraines might get better during pregnancy or they might kick in more often. It seems that they have gotten better, but I still get headaches. The headaches I'm getting now I imagine are like a normal headache. They are uncomfortable, but not debilitating and I have no sensitivity to light or sound. I can only take extra strength Tylenol for the pain which normally doesn't work at all for my migraines and it will take the edge off these headaches. So in comparison to what I'm used to I can't complain.

    I had some discomfort with cramps, but nothing like menstral cramps. It had me worried at first, but I found out it's perfectly normal. Luckily I have a ton of friends and family who have just had babies to run to with my questions.

    Like most pregnant women I have a super nose right now. It turns out to be a bad thing most of the time. I can't wear perfume because it bothers me all day. Lotion is as smelly as I can get. I smell everything in the refrigerator when I open it and those smells even if nothing is going bad don't mix well. I can smell the kitchen garbage from the next room. There was one day that I couldn't even go near the kitchen without feeling sick from the smell. As soon as Josh came home I told him he needed to find that smell and get rid of it. He cleaned out the fridge, took out the garbage and bleached the sink. Luckily that did take care of it.

    The most miserable thing of all is being tired all the time. I could barely stay awake for work. I had to nap every afternoon and I'd sleep for 2 hours! Then Josh would come home and we'd eat dinner and I'd fall asleep on the couch watching TV. Then I'd go to bed and sleep until my alarm when off and argue with myself over whether or not I could squeeze in one more snooze and still make it to work on time. Forget exercising! There was no way I was going to be able to carry myself to the Y for a workout. I couldn't even get myself in the next room to walk on the treadmill or to take the dogs for a walk down the street. It was awful! I'm starting to get more energy back now so I'm walking the dogs again and doing some exercises from my pregnancy book. 

    What was the worst part of your pregnancy? Did you suffer from morning sickness? How bad was it and how long did it last?

  • Keeping a secret

    Posted by Nikki Montgomery


    I'm pretty good at keeping secrets as long as I don't have to lie to do it. I am not a good liar. This was the hardest secret I've ever had to keep, but when my husband and I found out we were having a baby we knew we had to keep it to ourselves for as long as possible because bad things can happen in the first trimester.

    I know 2 people in the last year that suffered terrible losses because of miscarriage and they told a bunch of people as soon as they found out they were pregnant so they had to relive that pain every time they had to tell those people they lost their babies. We didn't want to put ourselves through that.

    We told our families, but the agreement was that they were the only ones. If something horrible happened we'd talk to them about it anyway.

    I called the doctor's office the day after the positive pregnancy test and asked if I needed to come in to confirm the pregnancy, but they told me that the home tests are as accurate as theirs so I didn't need to make the trip.

    So we called our parents to confirm and my dad was at work when I called him. He was so excited when we told him the news he told everyone he works with so then we decided we had to tell our closest friends so they didn't find out from someone else. We made sure to tell all of them that we are trying to keep it hush hush.

    Josh was very good at lying to people when people at work asked him how things were going because some of them knew we had been working with the fertility clinic. I on the other hand couldn't lie when asked. So I spilled the beans to the few people who asked me directly.

    When I told my extended family I found out that my cousin in Maine is also pregnant and she is due the day before me! This is her 3rd baby so she felt comfortable telling people right away. It is so exciting to have a family member going through the same things at the same time.

    I can't tell you how happy I was to make it through the first trimester so I could finally tell people! I'm so glad the secret is out.

    Did you wait to tell people when you were pregnant? How long did you wait?

  • Announcement

    Posted by Nikki Montgomery


    testI made a very exciting announcement this morning, my husband and I are expecting a baby in November.

    We had been trying for a while and were getting pretty frustrated. Once I turned 30 I really started to feel the pressure and with every, "So when are you guys having kids?" I grimaced. Finally in December we decided to try something else and my doctor referred us to a fertility clinic in Middleton.

    We met with the doctor who explained to us that we were in the category "Unexplained Infertility." I felt better knowing that there was nothing wrong with either of us. The doctor explained all of our options in full detail and he talked to us about the costs of each of the treatments and explained how our chances would increase with each different treatment.

    We decided to try fertility drugs for 6 months and we'd combine with insemination if that didn't work. The drugs were supposed to make drop 2 eggs in a month instead of one to increase our chances.

    So we started the drugs in February and went to the fertility clinic for an internal ultrasound to see how my eggs looked. It turns out that the drugs didn't work exactly how they were supposed to. We were supposed to find 2 mature eggs, but only found one and one immature egg. So the doctor decided to up my dosage, but gave us our intercourse schedule anyway to take a shot at the one mature one.

    We knew exactly when we'd be able to take our first preganancy test. When I took the first test I didn't tell Josh. I got one bright pink line and a faded pink line which according to the box means we're pregant! I ran down stairs and told Josh we need to buy another test. He wanted to run out that very night to get one. I told him I'd pick one up the next day. Josh was so excited that when the next day came he called me on his lunch break from the store asking me what kind he should get. When he got home he couldn't wait for me to pee on the stick! When I did Josh ran the timer and after 3 minutes there were two distinct pink lines!

    We decided we were going to keep it to ourselves for a while, but I just couldn't I had to call my mom and dad so he had to call his. Our parents were so happy which made us even more happy!

    No more visits to the fertility clinic. Now we see my regular doctor at Ministry Health Care St Michael's Hospital in Stevens Point.

    Continue to follow my story here and please share your thoughts, advice, and stories in the comments section.