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  • 2nd chance at Lamaze

    Posted by Nikki Montgomery

    9/14/11

    Okay we have Lamaze again tonight. Will I make it through without laughing? As I'm sure you heard or read I didn't do so well my first class. When it came time to relax and do the breathing exercises I broke out in laughter and couldn't stop. Today I'm hoping that I'll make it through the class without embarrassing my husband.

    We haven't looked at the book we got since last week at class. Luckily there was no homework. We did however, before the class talk about what we want out of the birth experience. I guess we did a birth plan or at least part of one. 

    The biggest decision I have to make is whether or not I want drugs. Josh is leaving this totally up to me. Of course lamaze is a class to help you get through child birth naturally without the aid of drugs, but the instructor said at the beginning of class that she's not going to push us either way.

    The great thing about lamaze even if I do decide that I want drugs is that if the labor goes quickly and I have no time for drugs I'll know what to do to cope with the pain. Plus it will help me in early labor deal with the contractions too by teaching me different positions and breathing techniques to get through the pain. 

    There are things I need to consider before deciding whether or not I want drugs. 

    • How much sleep did I get prior to labor
    • How much energy I have
    • How long labor lasts. If labor lasts a long time I will probably give in and ask for drugs
    • What position the baby is in
    • The support mom has and I know I will have lots of great support from my loving husband, my mom and my sister. 

    Options for pain relief:

    • Breathing Techniques
    • Positioning
    • Water (Hydrotherapy)
    • Hot & Cold Packs
    • Massage
    • Sterile Water Injections (for back pain)
    • 'Gas & Air'
    • Stadol
    • Demerol
    • Nubain
    • Epidural
    • General Anesthesia
    I need to keep in mind that the human body was meant to give birth and I know plenty of women who have done it naturally and made it through just fine, but I'm keeping my options open.
  • Daddy goes to a garage sale.

    Posted by Nikki Montgomery

    Baby Blog by Josh:

    garage saleSo we have a laundry list of things to get before the baby comes, and as most of you know, I want to pitch in as much as possible.  So I decided to go to a garage sale to find some stuff for our little girl.  Mind you, every time I’ve gone shopping for kids clothes I’ve had my wonderful wife with me for guidance.  But this time I was going solo.

    I texted Nikki before I went to the sale to check to see what else we needed.  As most guys can
    attest, I need a list of items to get.  I can’t just go to a garage sale, or a store for that matter, and just look around.  I need a list of specific things to get.  So armed with this list, I head off to the garage sale.

    When I got there, everything seemed a little fuzzy.  I was nervous.  Not nervous about being at a garage sale, but nervous that I would buy something that I shouldn’t, or wouldn’t get the best deal on something.  But I was lucky.  It was a friend’s garage sale, and she was there to lend a helping hand.  I was able to pick up some cute sleepers and a swaddler.

    When I got home I proudly showed Nikki my purchases.  I said I did a good job, but I think she was just being nice.  Since then she went to another garage sale, and came back with 3 times as many clothes as me and didn’t spend much more money.  But it was a good first start to many years of buying clothes for our child.  I will remember this forever and someday tell my little girl this story.

  • Feeding baby

    Posted by Nikki Montgomery

    9/12/11

    baby bottleThis is a touchy and important issue. How will you choose to feed your baby? There are some women judge women who choose not to breastfeed very harshly and there are some women who are anti-breastfeeding because it grosses them out or they feel weird about it. 

    It's totally your choice and I'm fine with it either way. I personally think that breastfeeding is a perfectly natural and appropriate way to feed my baby, but you will not find me in a public place doing it in front of everyone. A couple weeks ago there was a girl at church breastfeeding her baby. She was wearing a wrap so you couldn't see anything, but it was a little awkward even for me.

    Breastfeeding has many benefits for mom and baby. For baby it provides all the nutrients he or she will need to grow. The first milk contains antibodies important for protecting your newborn against illness. Breast milk contains just the right amounts of protein, fat, sugar and water. Breast milk is also easier for your baby to digest which may guard against colic and uncomfortable gas.

    Breastfeeding benefits for mom and her boss when you consider that breastfeeding moms miss less work due to sick infants. Breastfeeding is more convenient in the middle of the night because you don't need to warm up bottles. It can save you lots of money too because you don't need to buy bottles, nipples or expensive formula, not to mention fewer visits to the doctor's office. And an added and important benefit for moms is health. Breastfeeding can actually reduce your risk for type 2 diabetes, breast cancer, ovarian cancer and postpartum depression. Oh yeah and you can burn up to 800 calories when you breastfeed so you lose baby weight much faster.

    Yesterday I was having a conversation with my family about breastfeeding and my mom mentioned that when she was toward the end of her pregnancies the doctor told her that a beer a day could help with milk production. Of course now a days they tell you to avoid alcohol all together while you're pregnant and to keep drinking to a minimum while you're breastfeeding. There's no need to pump and dump if you have one or two in a day, but more than that you shouldn't feed your milk to your baby. I read an article about this on Babycenter.com and learned that the old wives tale suggests dark beer helps with milk production, but studies have shown that alcohol actually reduces milk production.

    Speaking of alcohol there are lots of risks to consuming alcohol while pregnant. It can lead to low birth weight babies, fetal alcohol syndrome and can cause premature labor. Even small amounts of alcohol can cause problems for your baby so it's best to avoid it all together. 

    Thanks for reading my extra long blog today. I'm interested to see how you feel about breastfeeding please comment below.

     

  • Baby Names

    Posted by Nikki Montgomery

    9/9/11

    birthing servicesEveryone keeps asking us if we have named our baby yet. Picking a name is stressful business. You don't want to pick a name that rhymes with something unfortunate (Dennis the Menace). You can't pick a name that means something you're not aware of (I heard of a lady who named her daughter Latrine because she though it sounded pretty not knowing it meant toilet!). You don't want your baby to have a name that could be associated with someone bad (if you're last name is Manson you probably shouldn't name your son Charles). You don't want to give your child a name that rhymes with your last name (Julia Gulia).

    My mom gave us a book of baby names. The book is really fun it includes lists like: Future Serial Killers, Future Politicians, Future Millionaires, Future Geeks, Future Activists, Future Athletes and that sort of thing. We loved reading through these lists, this isn't how we were going to pick a name though.

    Before we knew if we were having a boy or a girl we sat down and each made lists of names we liked for both a boy and a girl. Then we compared our lists and narrowed them down to the names we had in common. From there we looked up the meanings and origins of the names and put them together with the middle names we knew we wanted to go with and decided what we liked best. We decided that if we were having a boy it would be Zachary Carl, but didn't have a definite girl's name. Then we found out that we were having a girl so we really got to thinking. We got the list narrowed down to 2 names and decided to keep it that way until we see her. We figure when we see her we'll know what to call her. 

    We shared the 2 names with our families to hear how they sounded when repeated back to us and we like them both and so do our families. It's funny because their opinions are split about half and half between the names. We learned that once you share the names you will get feedback. In our case it's been pretty good, but I imagine for some people feedback could be bad. So we decided not to share the names with anyone else. 

    Did you share your baby's name before he/she was born?

    For fun here is the list of babies born in the last month at Ministry Saint Michael's Hospital: http://ministryhealth.org/MinistryHealth/Services/OnlineNursery/SMHStevensPoint.nws

  • Lamaze FAIL

    Posted by Nikki Montgomery

    9/8/11

    Last night Josh and I attended our first Lamaze class at Ministry Saint Michael's Hospital. Everything was going great. We got a nice little book that walks us through the steps of labor and tells us what's going to happen and the instructor did her best to tell us what it will be like and even used props. We got to watch Bill Cosby's "Natural Child Birth" and you would've though that would've gotten the giggles out of me, but no. 

    Yesterday afternoon Josh and I were emailing back and forth about our upcoming class and in one of the messages I asked "so how many times do you think I'm going to laugh tonight?" His response was, "the question is not how many times it's whether or not you'll be able to stop." As you may recall when we went to the doctor to hear the baby's heartbeat for the first time I laughed and couldn't stop laughing and messed up the whole thing. And I have a habit of laughing at the most inappropriate times.

    Well, it turns out he was right. When we got to the end of class we were all laying on the floor with moms on the mats and dads sitting or laying behind us rubbing our backs as the instructor tried to paint a relaxing picture of us on a beach with the warm sun warming our bodies from our heads down. As she was painting this picture she asked us to imagine laying on a towel on the beach and feeling our arm and shoulder sink slowly into the sand and I started imagining quicksand type sinking. So I started to giggle. Then Josh whispered, "Stop!" That made me laugh even more because I started thinking about the emails we were sending earlier. Josh whispered, "Relax. Focus." I was giggling as quietly as possible so one said anything, but I knew I had embarrassed him. I did eventually pull myself together.

    We'll see if I can make it through the next class acting like an adult. 

  • Lamaze

    Posted by Nikki Montgomery

    9/7/11

    I can't believe we only have 66 days left! We're starting to get a little nervous that we won't have everything done that we need to do.

    We still have to build a cabinet for all the games we have stored in the baby's dresser. We have to get all the baby clothes and blankets washed. We need to shampoo the carpets throughout the house and build a buffet for the dining room so we have room for baby stuff. I already boxed up about half of my wine glasses, margarita and martini glasses to make room for bottles. 

    Besides getting the house ready for baby we have to get ourselves ready for delivery. Josh and I start our Lamaze class tonight. We are pretty excited. We've taken a bunch of classes through Ministry Health Care so far and we've only got a few more to go. Lamaze is every Wednesday night for 4 weeks from 6-8:30pm at Ministry Saint Michaels. After we finish Lamaze our next class is breastfeeding at Ministry Saint Michaels on October 11th and we're taking Happiest baby on the Block which we can take either before or right after the baby is born. 

    I love that there are so many great classes available to us. Josh and I love to learn and it makes us feel so much more prepared to have taken these classes. 

    I've heard from some people that Lamaze was a waste of time and money. Others have said it is a must. Did you take it? What did you think?

     

  • Official baby shower

    Posted by Nikki Montgomery

    9/6/11

    baby shower cakeMy mom, my best friend, Felicia, and my sister-in-law, Katie, threw me a great baby shower over the weekend. It was held at my house and about 30 guests were able to attend. It downpoured right before the shower as we were decorating and putting together the food, but it cleared up just in time for the shower. Unfortunately the skies opened up again right as the shower was wrapping up. 

    The shower was a lot of fun we played a word scramble game, finish the nursery rhyme game, baby bingo and the string game where people guess how big around I am and the person closest wins. 

    I was very surprised that Josh joined me for gift opening. I was very happy that he did, but surprised because earlier he had told me he didn't want to do it and I didn't push it. We got lots of great stuff. TONS of bath stuff so we probably won't ever have to buy any. Lots of diaper rash ointment and loads of clothes. We were surprised we didn't get many blankets nor diapers. We got a few gift cards so we'll use those to buy diapers. We will also need to get a baby monitor and eventually a high chair. We got the travel system from my family so now we have a way to bring the baby home from the hospital when she's born, bonus. 

    It was so nice to see a lot of people that I don't see often. My friend, Sarah Rae, from college, travelled over from River Falls to attend the shower which I thought was pretty awesome. And of course it's always great to see those friends that I do get to see on a regular basis because they're close. 

    I had loads of fun. Thanks to everyone who attended and those who threw the shower too. 

  • Surprise baby shower

    Posted by Nikki Montgomery

    9/2/11

    surprise baby showerYesterday the awesome people at work threw me a surprise baby shower! The morning show usually meets with Joe, our Brand Manager, on Thursdays, but yesterday Joe cancelled our meeting and told me that he would need to see me alone at noon though. I had no idea what he could want to talk to me about. Bryan kept coming over and asking me if I was nervous and I just said no, but when noon came around and Joe said that he wanted to meet with me outside he building over lunch then I got a little worried. He and I went downstairs and he stopped and said he needed to go ask our sales manager Bob a question and said I could come along. Bob wasn't in his office so he popped his head in the conference room and asked if he could interrupt the meeting. He then waved me over and I was very confused, until I walked in and there were pink balloons, presents and lots of yummy food. It was so nice! No one has ever thrown me a surprise party before. No one has ever even tried. It was pretty awesome. I couldn't say thank you enough. 

    Bryan knew exactly what was going on so he was just messing with me everytime he asked if I was nervous about my meeting with Joe. He's been here a week and he's already messing with me. I think he'll be just fine.

  • Pets and babies

    Posted by Nikki Montgomery

    9/1/11

    kolby and mookieI have two dogs and I'm a little concerned about how they're going to react to having a baby around. They are both big babies and need lots of attention, but they've both been around babies before and have been super. Kolby, our Boston Terrier from the Marathon County Humane Society pretty much ignores babies after sniffing them a little. Mookie, the Pugle we inherited from my brother and sister in law when they moved into a pet free apartment, is all about babies. He likes to be around them and he doesn't mind if they pull his ears or tail. When he's had enough he gently pushes the baby's hand away with his paw.

    Kolby is pretty oblivious to what's happening to me he steps on my belly and he tries to lay by me and push my belly out of the way. Mookie on the other hand will sniff my belly and lay with his head on my lap and is pretty gentle with me. 

    The thing that worries me most about Kolby is that the vet told me that he has the start of cataracts and could lose his eyesight. I know he'll get around fine even if he can't see, but will it be okay with a toddler running around? I don't want him to be scared of the baby. The vet said it could be many years before he is blind so we shouldn't worry too much.

    Both of our dogs are sweet as pie and would never do anything to hurt anyone. Kolby may try to lick you to death, but that's about as vicious as he gets. Mookie likes to pretend he's tough by barking, but the second someone barks back he hides behind Kolby.

    What is the best way to introduce dogs to the baby? 

  • Baby Shower

    Posted by Nikki Montgomery

    8/31/11

    blanketI have my baby shower coming up this weekend and my hubby is so much more stressed out about it than I am. He has been working hard cleaning the garage because that's where we're having the party and he's done a fantastic job. Last night he decided he needed to clean the siding on the house in the rain at 8:00 at night. I really don't think anyone is going to care whether or not the siding is clean, but it makes him feel better so I'm not going to argue. 

    My parents and my sister and her family just got back from Maine. My parents were both born and raised there so we still have lots of family there including my mom's sister who gave me the most special shower gift. My mom couldn't wait to give it to me.

    The day family got back my mom called me and told me that my aunt had sent back an extra special gift though she didn't understand why my aunt would choose to give it to the least sentimental person in the family. Let me correct my mother here. It's not that I'm not sentimental, I just don't cry. I also don't get attached to too many things though there are some stand out things that I can't part with. I often give thoughtful, sentimental gifts. For example for my mom's birthday this past spring I gave her a framed picture of her parents on their wedding day and on their 50th wedding anniversary. My grandfather passed away many years ago and my grandmother will be 95 in October. This inexpensive, but thoughtful gift made her cry so I don't know why she would say I'm not sentimental.

    My mom told me that she couldn't wait until the shower to give this gift from my aunt to me she had to give it to me before our family dinner on Sunday. When I got there Sunday it didn't take her long to run and get it. She brought me the gift, it wasn't wrapped it was just in a clear plastic bag. My mom held onto it for a second and told me that this was an extra special gift because each of the little squares stitched into it were hand made. Inside the bag with the small quilt there was a card that contained a note explaining the story. When my aunt was 10 years old her grandmother (my great grandmother who had passed away long before I was born) taught her how to cross stitch. When my aunt was older she took the hankies she had made way back then and started making this quilt for her own child she thought she would one day have. Unfortunately God could not bless her with a child so she held on to this quilt. She held on to it even after my other aunts three children had children. She held onto it after my uncle's daughter had 3 children. And she held on to it after my brother and sister both had their children and decided to pass it on to me. 

    I don't know exactly why she chose me, but I can't help but wonder if it's because she knew and understood the trouble Josh and I had trying to get pregnant with this baby. I cried when I read the story and when I thought about how lucky I am to have this piece of my family history. And it matches the baby's room :)

    I'm glad my mom gave me this gift before my shower. I can't imagine that anything I get at the shower will be that special and I wouldn't want to make anyone feel bad. I know I will love the gifts we get at the shower, but this stand out gift deserved to stand alone.

    What was the most special thing that you have ever gotten or given? 

  • Fathers In Training

    Posted by Nikki Montgomery

    Fathers-in-training by Josh

    Monday night I went to a class at Ministry St. Claire’s
    called Fathers-in-training.  It is a
    class that fathers take without the mother of their soon to be born child.  This gives the guys a chance to discuss many
    things that they may not feel ok about saying them in front of the expecting mothers.

    I have to tell you that this class was great.  It covered three areas; how to support the
    mother of your child, how to take care of a newborn, and how to take care of
    yourself.  Some of the information was
    review from other classes Nikki and I have taken, but this teacher put a
    different spin on things from the point of view of the male during the pregnancy,
    birth, and after.  Our teacher was
    great.  He has 5 children himself and
    gave us a real world view of how things will be and things we could run into.

    One of the most importing things I took away from the class
    was how us men have to realize that we are not the center of attention during
    this process.  The teacher used an example
    of a Nascar driver and pit crew chief. 
    Our wife is driving the car; everything is happening to her.  We are her pit crew chief.  We are there to support her and help her get
    through this the best and easiest way possible. 
    It is hard for some men to let go and play the supporting role.  It almost goes against our DNA.  But it is an important part to play during
    this process, and we need to step up the give it our best.

    There are many other things I learned at this class that I
    can’t fit into this blog entry.   I will
    have to convince Nikki to let me add some more in a future blog.  But I do want to pass along a big thanks to
    Ministry Health Care for providing soon to be fathers with this opportunity to
    learn with other fathers to be.  It was informative
    and fun.

  • Beyonce's baby news

    Posted by Nikki Montgomery

    Someone else is pregnant!

    CelebTV Beyonce's baby news.